• Revealed! The bedroom secret that drives my woman crazy every time

    07/Jul/2016 // 477 Viewers

    *You are about the read the dirtiest thought of an unsatisfied wife!  *My woman can't get enough of me because of this


    So before you read on, be prepared to understand what your wife goes through when you are not 100% of the man you should be for her.

    My name is Adaobi and I am married to a caring husband by the name of Frederick Babatunde. Even though Frederick is a man of any woman’s dream, He lacked one thing that is most important to us women even though we find it hard to publicly accept.

    Frederick couldn’t observe his manly duties, I don’t mean the material things because Frederick is 100% with that. But the Manly duties that makes a woman moan in ecstasy. And I’m sharing with you my side of the story before I let Frederick take over and tell you his ordeal, the problem and how he found the solution that has long eluded him.

    It’s very easy for us women to say everything is alright in our bedroom when we are at the verge of losing our mind and I am no exclusion because I was at the verge of doing what I never thought I could ever do – cheat on my Frederick. 

    If not for the sworn covenant of “For Better For Worse”, I would probably have slept with another man due to frustration of not getting what I need in the bedroom from my husband.

    For so many years, I was dying in silence, the feeling of unsatisfaction was driving me insane and I didn’t know what to do. Then finally the idea of cheating on my husband started playing in my head. At first when it comes to mind, I quickly kick it out but every time Frederick leaves me unsatisfied with his small Johnson and spilling his thick milk in less than 1 minute, my mind start playing games on me by bringing the thought of getting what Frederick was lacking from another guy.

    Sometimes I fantasized about meeting a guy that will give it to me hard without any strings attached, I needed to be satisfied so bad that it started affecting my closeness with Frederick. If not for the fear of God and the saving grace that Frederick accepted that he was not 100% when it comes to satisfying me, I would have probably lost my way or become a shadow of myself, also because we could talk about it without any of us cursing on each other. 

    The fact is, we women are human, we want to be satisfy sexually and if don’t get it, the worse ideas comes to our mind. So your wife is no exception to this rule if you don’t do something about it quickly before it gets out of hand. But I was lucky because as much as we discussed about it, Frederick didn’t stop looking for a solution to his twin problem of small Johnson and 1 minute man-ness (if there is a word like that)

    Frederick tried everything the doctors recommended but couldn’t get one that will totally fix the situation. Some recommendations where harmful or had side effects. After years of trying different things that didn’t work for my husband, few months ago, we found a heaven sent natural solution that worked like magic.

    In fact just few days after discovering this solution, Frederick drove me to cloud 9 and back after many years. My joy knew no bounds that day. Not only because Frederick now has a Johnson big enough to fill my honey pot or because he can now go on and on for 30 minutes till I beg him to come, but because I can finally clear off the thoughts of cheating on my caring and loving husband from my mind. You can hear from him here http://fredrickbabatunde.com/na/

    Will you like to discover exactly what Frederick found that helped me get rid of his 1 minute man-ness and small Johnson? As for me, I am the luckiest and happiest wife I can be to my husband because he didn’t neglect my emotions and feeling, he went all the way without giving up till he found the secret solution that eluded him for years.

    It is your own turn to do the same for your wife, fiancé or girlfriend. You will finally be able to hear my husband’s side of the story and see exactly how he found the solution and how you too can also lay your hand on the solution. - naij.com

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  • 10 ways to make a woman fall in love with you

    07/May/2016 // 686 Viewers


    After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you, and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.

    1. Display maturity

    It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself. 
    TIP: Women love it when a guy takes interest in their likes, dislikes, interests, family, childhood and so many other areas. Talking to her about herself is the best way to make her fall in love. 'Tell Me Honey...2000 Questions for Couples' is a best-selling book from Amazon that will help you draw out a woman with questions. This book has 2000 questions across 75 categories including love, romance, sex and relationships. Let her reveal herself to you, one question at a time and before you know it, she'll be in love with you! This 'must-have' book is also available as an instant download ebook.

    2. Romance her

    Make her feel good by keeping the romance alive in the relationship. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money doing this. Sure, there isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t adore flowers and gifts, but you can also do things that don’t cost a lot but can still enhance your relationship. Write her little notes or send her a mushy card. Call her up just to tell her you’re thinking about her and can’t wait to see her again. Be attentive and make her feel cherished and truly special.

    3. Faithful

    Don’t ever give her occasion to doubt you. Let her know that you have eyes only for her and the rest of the world takes a backseat. Let her sense your commitment to her and your relationship. Being able to trust someone and truly rely on him is a very powerful feeling. So many people profess deep feelings and then cheat on their partners. Don’t just tell her but show her that she can count on you. Women need to feel secure and once that is established, it takes the relationship to a higher level.

    4. Time spent with her is precious

    Make it clear that you really treasure the time you spend with her, irrespective of what you’re doing together. And prove it! For instance, if she suddenly tells you she’d like to meet you because she’s finishing work early and you had something else lined up, cancel it for her. That doesn’t mean you cater to her to the exclusion of everything else, just that you sometimes sacrifice something you care about to be with her. If she begs you to come see a movie and you had plans with your buddies, do it for her and let her know subtly that you did. She will surely reward you! Women also love it if you do some girly stuff with them like shopping for lingerie, and aren’t afraid of sacrificing your masculinity in the process. It just makes you more of a man in their eyes!

    5. Compliment her

    You don’t have to go over the top always telling her how good she looks or how gorgeous her hair is or what a lovely outfit she’s wearing. A compliment has more effect when it is sincere, well timed and often, out of the blue. While a woman always loves hearing that she’s looking good, you can’t keep telling her that. It will lose its charm eventually. A compliment is valued when there is a surprise element to it. Telling her how witty you find her, how her intelligence turns you on, appreciating how thoughtful and generous she can be, or her gentle nature, all these are deeper compliments, which, when paid sincerely, make the recipient feel ten feet tall.

    6. Laughter

    Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your company and looks forward to seeing you again, you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious. It’s more about being on the same wavelength and enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding humor in similar situations or having a favorite serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!

    7. Learn what turns her on

    And use it to advantage. Find out just the kind of touch that excites her, how she loves to be kissed. Don’t ever push her for sex or make her uncomfortable by coming on too strong. Let her see the effect she has on you, yet keep a strong rein on your passions if she decides she wants to call a stop to it. Let her set the pace, and ensure she understands that while your desires for her are strong, you will respect the limits she sets. Respect her and her body and she will appreciate you more for it. Women love it when they can see how much they turn you on and yet find you willing to take it slow for their sake. Also, when you make love to her, don’t always kiss her or caress her as a lead up to having sex. Do it just to make her feel special and because you want to convey that to her, and she will adore you for it.

    8. Give her space

    Don’t be possessive and make her account to you regarding her whereabouts. Let her know you trust her. Don’t expect her to spend all her free time with you. Let her have her own life too. Often when in a relationship, people make the mistake of spending every waking moment that they can manage together, and in the process, alienate themselves from friends and even lose their identity. Let her be her own person.

    9. Thoughtful

    You remember little things she told you, and remind her of it at opportune moments. It may be that she once mentioned she loves having chicken soup when she’s got a cold, and you land up with some when she’s got the sniffles. Or she’s told you how she adores a particular entrée at a popular restaurant and the next time you go there, you order it and surprise her. It makes her feel like you genuinely listen to her and take the trouble to act on it and make her happy.

    10. “I love you”

    And of course, while showing her should give her the message, there’s a lot to be said for saying it loud and clear. Tell her how important she is to you. You might want to think about when you’re first going to tell her those three words. If it's too early in the relationship, she might be skeptical that you could feel so deeply so soon. And thereafter, it's not just choosing the right moment, but making every small moment count. You don’t have to wait only till you’re kissing her, or in bed. Saying it when it's least expected makes it all the more precious. She might be telling you something and the feeling just overwhelms you – tell her at that instant. She won’t mind being interrupted mid-sentence!- futurescope.com

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  • 10 Ways to Know You’re Dating a Real Man

    07/May/2016 // 529 Viewers


    James Michael Sama
    Public Speaker and Writer
    I’ve made posts in the past about qualities of a gentleman, as well as the differences between a ‘bad boy’ and a jerk. But, how does this all translate into how somebody acts while in a relationship?

    A man may be able to put across a great image, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’

    Here are some ways to know if you’ve struck gold:

    1) A real man values more than just your looks.

    Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.

    2) A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.

    A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

    3) A real man will have more interests than just you.

    I don’t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life — but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another red flag — relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

    4) A real man will give you answers.

    No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.

    5) A real man is direct.

    In addition to the last point — there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you... but with kindness.

    6) A real man will trust you.

    As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you’ve built.

    7) A real man is cool, calm, and collected.

    It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile.

    Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night.

    8) A real man will show you respect.

    Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. Be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.

    9) A real man will put effort into your relationship.

    Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward.

    10) A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.

    A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.

    As Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

    If you do have one of these men in your life, make sure he knows he is appreciated.- huffingtonpost

    James Michael Sama is a writer, actor, and public speaker focusing primarily on the topics of dating and relationships. Follow James’ blog at jamesmsama.wordpress.com for more posts like this one.

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  • I almost killed my wife in Dodan Barracks! - IBB

    08/Mar/2017 // 2059 Viewers


    Former Head-of-State Ibrahim Babangida made a shocking revelation when he admitted that he almost killed his late wife Maryam at Dodan Barracks, Lagos.

    Babangida, disclosed this while interacting with journalists at his Minna home as part of activities marking his 75th birthday.

    He also added that he is not as evil as many people have been made to believe.

    In response to a question about accidental discharge and whether he’d ever experienced it the former military leader said: “Accidental discharge! Oh no, I almost had it with someone very close to me, and when I did, the person involved, luckily, was not dead. I had it during the course of my service and it was in Dodan Barracks and the person who almost took it was my wife, but she escaped it.”

    Babangida, however, gave another example where the victim wasn’t so lucky. He said: “But I also had a situation where I was moving with some of my junior officers.There was an alarm and the ammunition fell and hit one of them and he dropped dead there. There is nothing you can do, as a commander, you have to move on. Of course, I knew the family very well, because he was my driver.

    “They came, I told them what happened and they took it in good fate, saying that was how God wished it to be, but it was a very painful death.”

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  • Meet Miss Nigeria, Ezinne Akudo

    08/Nov/2015 // 285 Viewers

    Popular comedian, Bovi, had several glowing things to say while speaking at Ezinne Akudo’s dinner, held in honor of her ‘Call to the Bar’, at the Oriental Hotel in Lekki. He declared, “Ezinne is not just tall, she walks tall”, and that particular statement struck a chord with me. Why would a beauty queen with that much exposure go back to school to sit in a classroom?

    “Ezinne is not just tall, she walks tall”.
    Walking into a restaurant to meet with her on a Saturday morning, I found Ezinne seated reading a book, Richard Branson’s Screw It, Let’s Do It, and I began to understand the statement. Maybe it comes with years of practice, but the current Miss Nigeria seats tall, if that is at all possible. The TV is on and tuned to CNN, which no one appears to be watching. After our chat, she informs me that a plane has just crashed in Egypt carrying 224 people from Russia, but nothing else is known at the moment. I didn’t think she had even glanced at the TV. Her composure is calm, barely lets up and she speaks quietly and purposefully. As we talk, I wonder if she’s always this quiet, or if she jumps up and down with a champagne glass in her hand like the beauty queens always do on television, when they’re with family or friends.
    Two years after winning the pageant, Miss Nigeria, Ezinne Akudo is now a barrister-at-law, and still queen, although she is set to hand over to a successor today, Saturday, November 7. When asked if being a barrister felt any different she laughed, pushing through her quiet disposition.
    “Not really, it doesn’t. It just comes with a feeling of contentment and fulfilment. It’s me, but just happier.”

    The beauty queen described her journey from finishing university to winning the pageant and then going back to law school with her crown after a year, as ‘tough’. Her busy schedule prevented her from completing her studies at the same time with her mates, and it made her sad to watch them graduate while she was still taking lectures. “Going back to school, studying, writing…I wasn’t in the mood. I just wanted to play, but I realised it was something that I needed to do, so I got it done and out of the way.” Such a statement is typical of a young lady who has her life set out in front of her, complete with several paths she can decide to take.

    Recently, she opened the doors of her rape crisis centre, The Eight Foundation, in Lekki for victims of sexual abuse, a highly commendable achievement in a country where such facilities are few and far between. She remembers the night that she became Miss Nigeria, in 2013. As she stood there, frozen in the unreal moment between when her name was announced and the crown being placed on her head, she thought of her family and her supporters, but most of all, about her new role and the responsibilities that would come with it. She also thought of ways that her dream of providing counsel and support for sexual abuse victims could finally become a reality. Even before she won, Ezinne had plans to make that particular contribution to society. Her innate, lifelong desire to represent people with problems and the unfortunate experience of a friend at the hands of a rapist took her through her law studies.

    “I wanted to be a teacher, growing up. But the more I watched TV and movies, I realised that I loved representing people with problems. I love justice. I love to hear that someone got what they deserved, whether good or bad. I’d always wanted to do that and I meant to use the [Miss Nigeria] platform to push it. So even before I won, it was a personal project. As a contestant, you had to table your intended pet project in the event that you win, and that was mine. Even though I wouldn’t call it that, because it would mean that’s it, and that’s not the case, because I intend to continue.”

    It also means that she intends to practice law, still, even though she has not decided on what area she wants to specialise in. She is certain that it will be human interest/rights, women’s rights, or international law oriented, regardless, no going to court for her. A venture she most likely would not even find time for as she is presently involved in pursuing other humanitarian projects, including organising charity balls, market campaigns, school campaigns, creating documentaries and basically raising more awareness for the causes that she and her team fight for. She also intends to go into business to sell clothes, shoes, bags, fashion items, home accessories, and other things.

    Two years after living the life of a queen, Ezinne has a different answer for anyone who wants to know how it feels. “Now, I don’t see the ‘queen’ thing in front of me anymore, because I’m trying to develop myself, Ezinne, as a brand. I wake up, if I want to go out, I do, and if I don’t, I don’t.”

    On the reasons for her two-year reign, however, she had no answer, but there was quite a bit of laughter.

    “You’ll have to ask the organisers. When they’re ready they can come and get their crown. But seriously, the pageant was supposed to hold last year. I think they wanted to do the next one better. They want to be ready.”

    Concerning her thoughts on pageantry and the future of the event, her tone is a bit grave and sincere in expressing her everlasting love for the competition because of the opportunities that it gave her, even as she goes on to cite her uncertainties.

    “People are fast losing interest in pageantry and those that still participate just do it for the sake of [the] show. Unless people decide to address several inherent issues, it could die out. For me, the Miss Nigeria brand as at when I was crowned was free and fair, and I’m sure it would remain that way, and I’m always going to be grateful to the organisers.

    People come to me and go, “I want to contest. How did you win? Did you have to pay someone or do something?”, and I’m like, “I won!”. Yes, they’re always going to believe what they will, but you know that you won without knowing anybody, or having any money, and simply because you were lucky enough to fit the description of the queen that they wanted. That’s how it was for me, and if it remains that way, that means they’ve given other girls that genuinely deserve it an opportunity.

    That’s the way pageants should be, because there’s much more and I can say that because of the platform that the pageant created for me.”

    The issue of rigging in pageantry is a prevalent one, and the current Miss Nigeria portrays views, thoughts, and accomplishments of a woman who is aware of all of her capabilities, and uses them in her efforts to create a fair and just world for all and sundry. It also sets her apart from her peers in one of the best ways possible, as far as her platform is concerned.

    According to her, in order to take pageantry to the next level, it is not enough to put down requirements. “They can say, ‘Oh, you must be a certain height, be fluent in English language, with a good body, or have a certain educational background’ and a girl would meet all this requirements, but then she’s not grounded. In the sense that she literally, firmly, has her feet on the ground, is strong, and not easily distracted by the ‘life’ and all the attention. For me, that’s a basic requirement, and it’s something you can’t show on your credentials.



    It comes from upbringing, the way you were raised, either by your parents or by experience, and how you are as a person. The key word is that you must be grounded.”
    Source: Ein



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  • 9 things you should never tell your man

    09/Apr/2016 // 491 Viewers


    I have a verbal hangover from something I said (okay, yelled) during a fight with my husband last night. Something I swore I would never tell him. I know what you're thinking -- that married couples should have no secrets from each other. But I'm here to tell you that's bull. There are certain things you should never tell your husband -- no matter what. When it comes to preserving marital bliss, Grandma's old adage still holds true: What he doesn't know can't hurt him. So after years of watching my friends step right in a big pile of it, and though I'm practically blinded by this big-mouth hangover, I've made a list of things you should never, under any circumstance, tell your husband.

    1. Never admit that you hate his mother...even if he bad-mouths her first (the Silence Is Golden rule)

    It can be tempting to add your two cents as your husband is telling you yet another story about his controlling, manipulative, buttinsky mother. Tempting to say, "You think that's bad? The other day she told me all of our son's good qualities come from her! She's just a delusional, dried-up old cow who wishes she could be married to you and who resents the hell out of me just because you love me!" Take a deep breath and hold your tongue. Remember, he can say whatever he wants, because she's his mommy. If you agree too adamantly, bad things will happen to your relationship, not the least of which is that your husband will never let you forget your slipup and will preface everything he says about her with, "I know you hate her, but--" To be safe, apply this rule to all blood relations, particularly stepkids. Save your opinions about his family for your girlfriends or your shrink and you'll live a much happier life -- trust me.

    2. Never tell him that his best friend made a pass at you...(the No Harm, No Foul rule)

    I'll call my husband's best friend Ed. For years Ed and I have shared a playful, semiflirtatious banter, usually with my husband there to appreciate the show. I can't tell you how many times Ed has said, "I won't get married until I find a girl like you" and my husband has come back with, "You don't need a girl like her; just take her." A harmless routine, unless it goes sour. This was the case with my friend Wendy. Her husband's best friend, Sean, used to make "You're the perfect woman -- leave him and marry me" jokes. Then one day the gag turned serious. After too many glasses of wine, Sean put his tongue in Wendy's mouth as they kissed good night. Freaked out, Wendy told her husband what had happened. Needless to say, he and Sean had a big fight and never spoke again.

    "An old friendship lost over nonsense," laments Wendy, who wishes she'd kept it to herself. "I wish I'd given Sean the benefit of the doubt at least one time. If I had, my husband would still have someone to play ball with on Sundays." Obviously, if your husband's buddy is a repeat offender, you'll have to break this rule, but for now be flattered and be quiet.

    3. Never confess to past infidelities...(the Don't Tell, Don't Tell rule)

    Now, girls, I'd hope this goes without saying, but I'll mention it anyway. I don't care if you were 20 and drunk at the time; never admit that you cheated while in a committed relationship. On the subject of fidelity, you are above reproach. And not being a cheater yourself, you have zero tolerance for cheaters. (This is a little difficult for me because my husband and I began dating behind my then-serious boyfriend's back. Nevertheless, I make sure to occasionally remind him that if he even had a one-night stand, I would leave him and take the children to Tangier. The threat seems to be working.) But in all seriousness, you have to ask yourself how the relationship could possibly benefit from your true confessions, and I think you'll see the answer is not at all. Doubt can do serious damage.

    4. Don't tell him that one of your girlfriends is cheating on her husband...(the Keep Your Big Fat Mouth Shut rule)
    Just keeping your own past slipups under wraps is not enough. In general, you must act as though infidelity is equal to murder. You know it exists, you've read about it in the papers, but you certainly don't know anyone who has actually committed it. (This won't always be easy. Last year a friend of mine was having a full-blown affair with a guy whose kid went to our daughter's school. Keeping this from my husband -- who would have eaten it with a spoon -- was harder than childbirth.)

    5. Don't say he's not as hard as he used to be...(the It's Your Memory That's Getting Soft rule)

    So your husband doesn't have the tumescence of a 20-year-old frat boy. I bet you don't have the stamina of Venus Williams. I say this not to make you feel bad about your own aging body but to help you appreciate (or at least accept) his. I defer to my fourth-grade teacher: "Children, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!" And hey, belly or no belly, if he's still trying to impress you in bed, you've got it made.

    6. Don't make him feel impotent about work...(the I Believe in You No Matter What rule)

    This is the rule I broke last night. Usually when my husband comes home from work frustrated or angry about his day, I encourage him to tell me what's on his mind. I listen intently, try to offer advice, and always make it clear that I'm on his (read: our) side. But truth be told, I think he and his boss have a serious communication problem. Yeah, his boss may be a jerk, but he's not a mind reader.

    When my husband was passed over for a promotion recently, I endured his victim routine for several days. Then, last night, I let loose. "You expect people to know what you want when you don't even know what you want," I yelled. "That's what's holding you back at work! Forget the promotion -- you're lucky you haven't been fired!" The look on his face told me I'd hit way below the belt, and suddenly I could see the feeling of betrayal setting in. "I thought you believed in me," he said, looking so hurt I thought I might die. "I do," I pleaded over and over again. But the damage was done.

    This morning on the phone, my sister made me feel even worse. "Why are you being his career counselor when he needs you to be his wife?" she asked, a little too aptly, I thought. And when I repeated the exchange to my mother, who is long divorced from my father, she added, "That's a lesson I learned too late. Don't mix your marital problems with his business problems or you'll end up with a husband who feels like a loser at the office and at home!"

    7. Don't tell him you want a divorce unless you really do...(the Don't Give Him Any Big Ideas rule)

    My good friend Clare used to threaten her husband with divorce all the time, yet the day he took her up on it she was so shattered she had to be hospitalized. A year later her ex-husband told me, "Every time we had a fight, Clare would say maybe we should split up. Honestly, I couldn't live with that hanging over my head anymore. I believed she had one foot out the door." When I told Clare what her ex had said, she sighed, "Oh please, I would never have left him. He was the love of my life."

    I know we've all been tempted to scream "I want a divorce!" I definitely had to restrain myself during the no-sleep baby years. I remember one horrible fight Patrick and I had over whether to use the Ferber method to sleep-train our daughter. In retrospect, the argument was about supporting each other even when we disagree. But in that moment -- we were locked in our bathroom so our daughter wouldn't hear (though, trust me, people across the river could hear) -- I screamed, "Get out!" The words froze between us. My husband looked at me like I was crazy. "I'm not going anywhere!" he said, and I was so relieved I burst into tears and have never threatened to throw him out again.

    Once you introduce the idea of abandonment into your relationship, distrust can grow. You can't unring that bell, so don't ring it unless you're sure the whole damn town is on fire.

    8. Never tell him that it does bother you that you make more money than he does...(the Being Married to You Is a Full-Time Job rule)

    Since three out of four of my best friends make more money than their husbands do, I'm thinking this situation is a lot more common than anyone is admitting. For years my husband made more than I did, and he couldn't have been more generous. But as the financial balance shifted, I can't confess to the same generosity. What was always "our" money suddenly felt a little more like "my" money, and I had to bite my tongue when I felt like saying, "Do you really need a new car?" or worse, "-- a new suit?" When anybody asks me if it feels strange to be the primary wage earner, I'm quick to say no. But when I'm with my close friends, we confess that it does.

    "Just last week, on our tenth anniversary, Howard gave me a beautiful pair of pearl earrings," confided my friend Susie, a lawyer whose husband is a writer. "All I could think was, I wonder how much these cost me. It was terrible!" But as she went on to describe their evening together -- how Howard had planned every detail, written her a beautiful card, bought a bottle of her favorite wine -- we all realized how lucky she is to have a husband whose mind isn't so caught up in his business that he forgets about his wife. Susie said she learned long ago that if she busts Howard's balls about not making enough money, she has to get into bed at night with a man who doesn't make enough money -- and has busted balls!

    9. Don't confess to your crushes...(the Do Unto Others as You'd Have Them Do Unto You rule)

    I am the worst when it comes to schoolgirl crushes. Every few years I meet someone who I suspect could have been the love of my life. My most recent crush (I got over him real fast when I saw him pick his ear and then smell his finger!), a hippie artist, connected with the parallel me who could have been a painter (as opposed to the real-life mommy me, who can't even paint a toenail). When I talked with him, my mind felt alive with ideas I hadn't had since college. As someone who has been married for more than a decade, I welcome these pseudo-romantic diversions, though I never act on them. I just flirt a little, irritate my friends with boring stories, and entertain a new series of fantasies for a while. But I never tell my husband who the object of my secret affection is for one simple reason: I would never want to know who he has a crush on. It would make me insane. A harmless crush is something no flesh-and-blood person can compete with, so I keep mine to myself. Hey, does he really need to know why you seemed sooooo into the sex the other night? And do you really need to know why he was so excited? Exactly. - Red Book

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  • Jay Z just released his first single in years and you can listen to it right here

    09/Jul/2016 // 801 Viewers


    Jay Z says "spiritual" is a work in progress that he never quite had the time to finish, but the track was released anyway late on Thursday night for good reason. The song, which marks the first new single the famed rapper has released in years, discusses what it's like to be a black person in America right now. It's particularly poignant in light of the recent killings of Alton Sterling, Philando Castile and, sadly, many more. The release also comes on the same evening as the horrific shooting of 11 police officers who took sniper fire while guarding a Black Lives Matter protest in Dallas, TX.

    Jay Z released the following text alongside the new single:

    I made this song a while ago, I never got to finish it.
    Punch (TDE) told me I should drop it when Mike Brown died, sadly I told him, “this issue will always be relevant.” I’m hurt that I knew his death wouldn’t be the last......
    I’m saddened and disappointed in THIS America - we should be further along.
    I trust God and know everything that happens is for our greatest good, but man.... it’s tough right now.
    Blessings to all the families that have lost loved ones to police brutality.

    The new song is available to stream exclusively on Tidal, of which Jay Z is part owner, and its artwork is a black square. You'll find the track embedded below in its entirety. If the embedded player fails (which it will, because WordPress) you can stream it right here.

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  • BREAKING: Popular and pretty Nollywood actress says she's single, searching for husband! [See photo]

    09/Jul/2016 // 893 Viewers


    Popular Nollywood actress officially breaks the silence surrounding her love life and exclusively tells THISDAY  ‘Entertainment File’ that she is single and searching. She also talks about what to expect from her new movie “Memory Lane” and more in this chat with Akpor Gbemre.

    Ruth Kadiri is popular for her role in “Matters Arising”, “Heart of a Fighter”, “Circle of Trust”, “Boys Cot”, among others. She runs a charity organisation called Ruth Kadiri Foundation, which reaches out to orphans and less privileged kids

    Tell us more about your new movie “Memory Lane”?
    “Memory Lane” talks about the story of unequal love within families and there is a lot of morals to be learnt from it. A family is thrown into chaos when the head of the family dies and the children are left feeling they’ve been deprived of true love by the other.

    How long have you been acting and at what point did you decide to go into movie production?
    I have been in the industry since 2006. I started as a script writer which later paved way for me to be on the screen. I started producing in 2013. It always gets to a point when you know you have what it takes to move to the next level, that point was three years ago. I took the chance and it has been worth it.

    How does it feel to be a ‘big fish’ in Nollywood?
    I won’t consider myself a big fish just yet, I work hard every day and I’m glad at the height I have attained so far.

    Is Nollywood truly the second biggest movie industry after Hollywood?  What’s your take on this rating?
    It depends on the angle you view it from. Rating the industry is done in different aspect of the industry, but overall I think we are the third largest industry which isn’t a bad thing. What’s encouraging and inspiring is that, the Nollywood of today is certainly not the Nollywood of few years back. The quality of production and the level of technicalities involved in Nollywood of today is certainly way higher than it used to be, and the level of distribution and showcase have reached an appreciable level going by the set standards at the cinemas, online promotions, marketing and distribution, brand investment and recognition, even actors recognition in light of endorsement deals and campaign strategies. I will certainly say we are walking our way up even faster in a positive light.

    Do you see yourself doing some Hollywood production in future?
    Well, by the grace of God, everyone aspires to be big. I didn’t see myself where I am today few years back and I pray everyday to find myself even in a better place in the future. So being on the big screens of Hollywood is a reality I am positive about. It will happen someday by God’s grace.

    How do you unwind and where’s your favorite vacation spot ?
    (Laughs) Well, when I’m not working, I just relax or watch a movie with  my friends. I really don’t have a particular vacation spot, where my heart finds joy is where I relax. If I have a man who wants to go to Kenya for fun, he is the essence of the fun not the location.

    Who are your favorite Nollywood and Hollywood personalities?
    In Nollyood, Genevieve Nnaji and Omotola Jalade Ekehinde. In Hollywood, I love Melissa McCarty and Kevin Hart. They are really good at what they do and I look forward to working with them some day.

    How do you cope with all the advances from male and female fans considering the fact that you are a sexy lady?
    Well, I just strike a balance all the time. I am not a loose girl. I am someone who really likes her privacy but still tries to keep the balance.

    Are you presently in a relationship?
    No, I am not. I was in a relationship but not anymore, and I thank God I’m out of it. So right now, I am single and searching.

    When you say you thank God you are out of a relationship, what do you mean?
    Can we not talk about it please? (Laughs)

    Ruth Kadiri

    Where do you see yourself in the next 10 years ?
    I see Ruth Kadiri as a big brand. I see fulfillment all around  me and I see me being strong enough to handle situations I cant handle today.

    What’s your advice to young people out there who want to be a Nollywood star like you?
    Go for it. A lot of people will try to discourage and bring you down but be strong and focus… Everything good doesn’t come easy.

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  • NOLLYWOOD!: Movie marketer weds actress in extravagant wedding (photos) Buhari must not see this!

    10/Jul/2016 // 3255 Viewers

    *This wedding looks more like a scene from a Nollywood movie but it is for real.

    Couple Prince Iyke Olisa and Sylvia

    Nollywood actress cum model Sylvia Chinwe Anyanwu weds popular actor, movie marketer Prince Iyke Olisa in a grand wedding on Saturday, July 2, 2016.


    The wedding was extravagant and boasts of cash. The couple went to church in a Range Rover limousine car that left many mouth agapes. Even the bridesmaids and groomsmen were not left out of the range rover limousine treat.

     Bride being led into the church by her father

    And the couple floor when dancing is very envious with the large amount of cash on it. The happy bride even noted that her floor was not bad on Instagram.

    Angela Okorie and a guest

    Olisa is the C.E.O Prime World Production International and the producer cum marketer of the bestselling movie The Return of Shina Rambo.

    Faces at Iyke and Sylvia wedding

    Source: Naij.com

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  • From playboy to president: Trump's past crude sex talk collides with White House bid

    10/May/2016 // 693 Viewers


    Over 15 years, radio shock jock Howard Stern and his buddy Donald Trump periodically carried on like towel-snapping "bros" in a locker room, rating women's tops and bottoms, debating whether oral sex is "important," and egging each other on about whether they would like to go to bed with a number of people, from Cindy Crawford to Diane Sawyer.

    "You could've gotten her, right?" Stern asked Trump on-air shortly after Princess Diana's death in 1997. "You could've nailed her."

    "I think I could have," Trump said.

    How about singer Mariah Carey? "Would you bang her?" Stern asked. Trump replied, "I would do it without hesitation."

    Trump's crude talk on-air with Stern between 1990 and 2005 was part of an image he cultivated as a Manhattan playboy who had so many women that he barely had time to sleep. He was often seen at trendy nightclubs with different women, appeared on the cover of Playboy magazine, wrote in his books about all the women chasing him and publicly boasted about his sex life.

    That reputation was useful as Trump, in his 40s and 50s, built a brand designed to equate his name with success and the high life. But it is problematic as Trump, 69, the presumptive Republican presidential nominee, tries to wash away his tabloid past and fashion a more dignified persona – as a potential commander in chief and leader of the free world.

    Although Trump promises to be "more presidential," his past statements have contributed to high negative ratings from women. Democrats have signaled they will make Trump's history a centerpiece of their campaign against him and other Republicans this fall.

    Trump's exchanges with Stern, many of which BuzzFeed posted online earlier this year, are featured in a new ad by the Democratic candidate in the U.S. Senate race in Arkansas.

    The contrast between Trump's past and present behavior underscores the extent to which he has shaped and reshaped his identity as he has moved between business, entertainment and politics. And it points to a fundamental question about his candidacy: Which version of Trump might America send to the Oval Office?

    "Defining Donald Trump will be one of the real challenges of this campaign," said Ed Rollins, a veteran GOP consultant who last week began working for a pro-Trump super PAC. "Ten or 20 years ago, Trump was a rogue character . . . a younger version of Hugh Hefner. Today he is a seen as a successful businessman and a celebrity and a good father."

    Trump, in an interview, played down the significance of some of his past behavior.

    "I never anticipated running for office or being a politician, so I could have fun with Howard on the radio and everyone would love it. People do love it," Trump said, sitting behind his Trump Tower desk piled with magazines featuring his face on the cover. "I could say whatever I wanted when I was an entrepreneur, a business guy."

    Trump also said his work was so "all-consuming" that he could not have been the libidinous playboy portrayed in the media.

    "People may be surprised that my life is much simpler than they thought," said Trump, with a Diet Coke in a plastic cup on his desk. "And they may be surprised that my life is much less glamorous than they thought, including every story about a supermodel."

    Trump said the media coverage of his personal life was "overblown."

    But it is clear that Trump played a role in shaping public perceptions.

    He wrote in his best-selling books that a parade of famous women wanted to date him. In his 1997 "Art of the Comeback," he wrote, "If I told the real stories of my experiences with women, often seemingly very happily married and important women, this book would be a guaranteed best-seller (which it will be anyway!)." He also wrote in that book about being "linked to dozens of other women. . . . It was incredible, being intimately associated with women I had never heard of. Women themselves - some very famous - were linking themselves to me. I guess they wanted some of the publicity. They were calling. Their agents were calling. It was a circus! It was sick!"

    After his public split with his first wife, Ivana, in 1990, Trump often got more media attention for his dates than his deals. From then until 2005, when he married his third and current wife, Melania Knauss, Trump's social life was a tabloid staple. During that time, he had a second tumultuous marriage, to beauty contestant Marla Maples, who was quoted on the cover of the New York Post as saying about Trump: "Best Sex I Ever Had."

    In between his marriages, a string of celebrities, including Madonna and Kim Basinger, were reported to have been chasing Trump - these women denied that, though. The rumors, even if not true, along with a string of women whom Trump showed up with at high-profile events, left the impression that he was a man about town.

    All of the attention differentiated Trump from other wealthy real estate developers. And Trump reveled in it, according to several longtime associates. Those people, who spoke on the condition of anonymity, said Trump made a point of surrounding himself with young, attractive women. When he threw parties at his Mar-a-Lago estate in Palm Beach, Fla., they said, Trump got his friends at modeling agencies to send women who floated around his pool and piled into his limousine.

    After he bought the Miss Universe pageant in 1996, Trump was seen by a national TV audience in a sea of contestants in bathing suits and high heels.

    "There's 100 beautiful women and 10 guys. Look, how cool are we?" said Roger Stone, a political adviser who has known Trump for decades, recalling the Palm Beach parties. "I was happy to be invited. I mean it was great."

    Trump's own comments focused attention on his libido, not just his skyscrapers.

    When asked by Playboy magazine in 2004 about Viagra, Trump boasted: "I just have never needed it." He went on to say that what he really needed was an "anti-Viagra, something with the opposite effect."

    "I'm not bragging," he bragged. "I'm just lucky."

    Trump's rise as a figure in popular culture helped propel him from business into television stardom when, in 2004, he debuted in his NBC reality show, "The Apprentice." During one season of the show, Trump drove up to Hefner's mansion in a limousine and was on TV surrounded by Playboy bunnies wearing pink ears and little else.

    Some of Trump's most raw language came during his appearances with Stern, when the two would critique women's looks.

    The BuzzFeed list included one clip in which Trump said: "Her boob job is terrible. They look like two light posts coming out of a body." In another clip, Trump said, "A person who is very flat-chested is very hard to be a 10."

    Stern had a huge national audience and made a name for himself with off-color questions, like this one, to Trump: "Is oral sex important to you? Man to man, and I've had this discussion with many men."

    Trump responded, "No, it's not important to me."

    In his recent interview with The Washington Post, Trump said he and Stern "had great moments" on the air, but he acknowledged he would not have said certain things had he known then that he would eventually be running for office. "Or I wouldn't have gone on the show because that is the easier way of doing it," Trump said.

    Trump said Stern is a good friend, "a really good guy and a very different guy when you take the radio microphone away." Stern declined to comment.

    With the Republican nomination in his grasp, Trump has projected a more familiar image for a possible president - that of a family man.

    His children, particularly the older ones, are constantly with him on the campaign trail and speak out on his behalf. His daughter Ivanka, 34, an executive vice president of the Trump Organization, is the star of many ads aired across the country in which she says her father told her that she could do anything - same as her brothers - if she worked hard.

    Candidate Trump recently sold the Miss Universe pageant.

    Trump told The Post that his record of promoting women to high-level positions in his business is more relevant than any past comment.

    "I greatly respect women," Trump said.

    Asked whether he is obsessed by women's looks given the frequent comments he makes about them, Trump said, "Much less so than people would think."

    Some who knew Trump in the 1990s say he was not an overheated Casanova. Rather, he was a workaholic aware of the value of being perceived as such.

    "I never heard him speak romantically about a woman," said Trump's former attorney Jay Goldberg, who was often by his side during those years. "I heard him speak romantically about his work."

    "Give him a Hershey's bar and let him watch television," Goldberg said. "I only remember him finishing the day [by] going home, not necessarily with a woman but with a bag of candy . . . not Godiva, just something from the newsstand."

    Kate Bohner, co-author of "The Art of the Comeback," said, "There were times when I'd see him chatting up a bevy of gorgeous creatures, and I can see how an outsider might think he was in it to win it, so to speak. But never did I feel that it was anything other than part of his shtick to fuel the Trump brand. I saw Mr. Trump being more paternal toward women than playboy."

    Peter Osnos, who edited Trump's 1987 "The Art of the Deal," said that Trump "cultivated celebrity" but that "his lifestyle was surprisingly unglamorous."

    "He's quite disciplined in some ways," Osnos said. "Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink."

    Trump's effort to adjust his image was apparent in the fall, when, as a candidate, he appeared again on the air with his old pal Stern.

    The radio host brought up Fox News anchor Megyn Kelly. She had just asked Trump during a presidential debate about all of the negative words he used to describe women over the years, including "fat pigs," "dogs" and "slobs."

    Stern seemed ready to relive the old days with his friend, baiting Trump to rate Kelly's looks.

    "What is she on a scale of 1 to 10?" Stern asked.

    But playboy Trump had left the room. The question, instead, was handled by candidate Trump.

    "In the old days," he said, "I wouldn't have minded answering that question. Today, I will take a pass." - Washington Post

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