• Will Smith to return to rap with tour

    06/Nov/2015 // 183 Viewers

     Getty/AFP/File | Actor Will Smith attends the Warner Bros. Pictures' "Focus" premiere at TCL Chinese Theatre on February 24, 2015 in Hollywood, California


    NEW YORK (AFP) - 

    Will Smith, one of the first mainstream rappers who has since become an Oscar-nominated actor, is returning to music with a tour.

    Smith has announced that his former duo, DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince, will reunite for a first-of-a-kind tour.

    "We never actually had a chance to go out and do a full tour," Smith told talk show host Ellen DeGeneres.

    The duo in 1987 put out its first album, "Rock the House," and within three years Smith was the star of the popular sitcom "The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air," leading to a lucrative career in Hollywood.

    "In that time, we just... were getting started and I never actually had a chance to go on tour, so I really want to get out there and do it for real," he said.

    Smith, who did not announce dates for the tour, said that the duo would perform old hits but that he also had "a stash" of new songs.

    DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince won a wide following in the United States in the late 1980s as hip-hop was becoming mainstream.

    Amid media scrutiny over rap's language and subject matter, the duo enjoyed ample radio play for clean-cut tunes such as "Parents Just Don't Understand," which won the first rap Grammy.

    Smith, who initially took to television after nearly going bankrupt through spending his newfound wealth, has since starred in blockbuster films such as the "Men in Black" series, as well as dramas "Ali" and "The Pursuit of Happyness," for which he earned Oscar nominations.

    Smith has released four solo albums, the last in 2005, but said earlier this year that he had been working in a studio with rap giant Kanye West.

    Smith last month also made a brief return to rap as he collaborated on a song with the Colombian band Bomba Estereo.

    His former bandmate DJ Jazzy Jeff, whose real name is Jeff Townes, has toured in recent years as a solo artist.

    In a recent interview, he hinted that the tour would take place next year, once Smith finishes promotion for his new film, the American football drama "Concussion," which comes out on Christmas Day.

    "We're going to sit down at the top of the year and map it out at first and then hopefully hit the road," DJ Jazzy Jeff said.

    The duo last performed together in a brief, surprise set in 2013 on "The Graham Norton Show" on the BBC.

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  • JUST IN: Another NOLLYWOOD actor gravely ill, send SOS message to colleagues [See photo]

    06/Oct/2016 // 468 Viewers

    PARIS, OCTOBER 6, 2016: (DGW) ANOTHER  Nollywood actor has been reportedly taken gravely ill  and has sent an SOS message to his colleagues in the entertainment industry, Vanguard has reported.

    He is Babatunde Omidina popularly known as Baba Suwe is gravely sick. Omidina’s health is deteriorating, said producer and actor, Yomi Fabiyi who is soliciting for assistance on his behalf.  On his Instagram page, yesterday, Fabiyi said Omidina’s health deteriorated after his encounter with officials of the National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA) in 2011 when he was accused of cocaine trafficking.

    “I am calling on all senior colleagues in the entertainment world, especially those close to Baba Suwe because I don’t have everyone’s contact. Please, reach out to him ASAP (As Soon As Possible).’

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    Image result for images for  Babatunde Omidina, popularly known as Baba Suwe
    “He told me he no longer feels comfortable since that episode with the NDLEA. Baba Suwe is a widower, he can hardly walk properly as I speak, let alone go on location.How will he feed and take care of the children Aunty Moladun left behind?
    “This is an A-Lister entertainer and this silence gives me Mental agony .I don’t want to speak when it may be too late; I won’t forgive myself.’’

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  • Meet the amazing Michael Jackson lookalike who got the look without surgery

    07/Apr/2016 // 984 Viewers

     This guy will have you doing serious double takes – is that actually a young Michael Jackson!?

    Fabio Fernandes is a huge Michael Jackson fan. In fact, he doesn’t even want to believe that MJ is dead.

    But if Fabio ever wants to get close to Michael all he needs to do is look in the mirror, because he looks EXACTLY like him. This is Fabio:

    Michael Jackson, impersonator, lookalike, contouring

    While this is usually the part of the story where we would list all the plastic surgery Fabio has had, what is actually shocking is that he hasn’t had any. None. Zip. Zilch. Nada.

    Fabio uses advanced contouring and makeup techniques to transform himself into Michael, and when he’s finished you would swear the king of pop himself was standing right in front of you.


    “I love looking like MJ, he is my hero and I adore everything about him. Growing up, people used to say how much I looked like him, so I decided to go on and embrace his look. Luckily most of my features are very similar to MJ’s. I have a strong jawline and the same dark brown eyes,” Fabio told Metro.

    The resemblance is so close that people actually stare in the street when they see him walking past! - 2dayfm





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  • I’m not dating Obasanjo - Acress, Princess Chineke

    07/Aug/2016 // 502 Viewers


    Nollywood actress, Princess Chineke, has debunked rumours she is dating former President of Nigeria, Olusegun Obasanjo.
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    The actress, who made news headlines after she was engaged in an alleged lesbianism scandal which turned into a messy fight while on set with her colleague, Chrystabel Goddy, said she wondered why people made up stories of an affair with Obasanjo, by mere seeing them together.

    The model cum actress in a chat with Star Gist said, “I was in New-York, I went to do something for the United Nations, the event was graced by different Presidents from different countries.

    “The ex-president was there too, so for crying out loud, I had to work with him. We took lots of pictures together, but it wasn’t just me. Some other people took pictures with him too. I wonder why people came up with such stories.

    “Well, its okay, it is part of the Showbiz, people would always talk. So, let them keep talking.”

    Speaking further, the Enugu state-born thespian said she will never consider marrying a sugar daddy or a man much older than she is.

    “I don’t think so. The youthful exorbitance might make you want more and that’s the beginning of a big problem,” Princess quipped. - DAILY POST

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  • Gambia stands up for Mr. Ibu

    07/Aug/2016 // 665 Viewers


    COMIC actor, John okafor, better known as Mr. Ibu recently stormed the West African country, The Gambia, where he was accorded what can pass for a five star reception by the people of that country.

    Citizens of The Gambia were happy to see the Nigerian movie star visit their country for the very first time. The trip which took Mr. IBU along with his international manager,‎ Mr. Okechukwu Nwuzor  (Don Singles) also saw the movie star visiting the Gambia Radio and Television stations where he was interviewed by the on air personalities.

    Speaking in an exclusive interview with our reporter on arrival at the Nnamdi Azikiwe International Airport, Abuja last week after the over two weeks visit to The Gambia, Don Singles said the people of Gambia were delighted in seeing Mr. Ibu live in their country

    According to him, the hospitality accorded Mr. Ibu in Gambia was very massive all through the period he was in that country.

    Don Singles further disclosed that Mr. Ibu also visited the Nigeria Embassy house in The Gambia where he exchanged pleasantries with the officials at the embassy.
    Also reacting to his recent visit to the Gambia, Mr. Ibu told our reporter that he appreciated the hospitality he was given during his stay in that country. He particularly thanked president Yahya Jammeh who he described as one of the best leaders in Africa noting that he will continue to support his good governance since he took power as the president of Gambia.

    Meanwhile, The Kingdom Lottery ambassador is billed to present another N1m cheque to a winner this weekend in Port Harcourt, Rivers State, in the ongoing scratch and win monthly Kingdom Lottery draws. -  THE NATION

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  • Revealed! The bedroom secret that drives my woman crazy every time

    07/Jul/2016 // 446 Viewers

    *You are about the read the dirtiest thought of an unsatisfied wife!  *My woman can't get enough of me because of this


    So before you read on, be prepared to understand what your wife goes through when you are not 100% of the man you should be for her.

    My name is Adaobi and I am married to a caring husband by the name of Frederick Babatunde. Even though Frederick is a man of any woman’s dream, He lacked one thing that is most important to us women even though we find it hard to publicly accept.

    Frederick couldn’t observe his manly duties, I don’t mean the material things because Frederick is 100% with that. But the Manly duties that makes a woman moan in ecstasy. And I’m sharing with you my side of the story before I let Frederick take over and tell you his ordeal, the problem and how he found the solution that has long eluded him.

    It’s very easy for us women to say everything is alright in our bedroom when we are at the verge of losing our mind and I am no exclusion because I was at the verge of doing what I never thought I could ever do – cheat on my Frederick. 

    If not for the sworn covenant of “For Better For Worse”, I would probably have slept with another man due to frustration of not getting what I need in the bedroom from my husband.

    For so many years, I was dying in silence, the feeling of unsatisfaction was driving me insane and I didn’t know what to do. Then finally the idea of cheating on my husband started playing in my head. At first when it comes to mind, I quickly kick it out but every time Frederick leaves me unsatisfied with his small Johnson and spilling his thick milk in less than 1 minute, my mind start playing games on me by bringing the thought of getting what Frederick was lacking from another guy.

    Sometimes I fantasized about meeting a guy that will give it to me hard without any strings attached, I needed to be satisfied so bad that it started affecting my closeness with Frederick. If not for the fear of God and the saving grace that Frederick accepted that he was not 100% when it comes to satisfying me, I would have probably lost my way or become a shadow of myself, also because we could talk about it without any of us cursing on each other. 

    The fact is, we women are human, we want to be satisfy sexually and if don’t get it, the worse ideas comes to our mind. So your wife is no exception to this rule if you don’t do something about it quickly before it gets out of hand. But I was lucky because as much as we discussed about it, Frederick didn’t stop looking for a solution to his twin problem of small Johnson and 1 minute man-ness (if there is a word like that)

    Frederick tried everything the doctors recommended but couldn’t get one that will totally fix the situation. Some recommendations where harmful or had side effects. After years of trying different things that didn’t work for my husband, few months ago, we found a heaven sent natural solution that worked like magic.

    In fact just few days after discovering this solution, Frederick drove me to cloud 9 and back after many years. My joy knew no bounds that day. Not only because Frederick now has a Johnson big enough to fill my honey pot or because he can now go on and on for 30 minutes till I beg him to come, but because I can finally clear off the thoughts of cheating on my caring and loving husband from my mind. You can hear from him here http://fredrickbabatunde.com/na/

    Will you like to discover exactly what Frederick found that helped me get rid of his 1 minute man-ness and small Johnson? As for me, I am the luckiest and happiest wife I can be to my husband because he didn’t neglect my emotions and feeling, he went all the way without giving up till he found the secret solution that eluded him for years.

    It is your own turn to do the same for your wife, fiancé or girlfriend. You will finally be able to hear my husband’s side of the story and see exactly how he found the solution and how you too can also lay your hand on the solution. - naij.com

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  • 10 ways to make a woman fall in love with you

    07/May/2016 // 675 Viewers


    After you meet a woman and date her, you get to know her better. You probably start feeling closer to her and may even find yourself falling in love with her. But her feelings may still remain a mystery to you. You’re not even sure whether you’re doing things right. How can you get her to fall in love with you? Here are 10 ways that you can make a woman fall in love with you, and at the end of it, she’s sure to be crazy about you.

    1. Display maturity

    It’s always said that women mature faster than guys and are often found complaining about how immature they act. Impress her with the way you deal with situations and your outlook on the whole. Show her how responsible you are about finances, or serious you are about your career. And demonstrate your ability to think clearly and rationally when disagreements crop up or a conflict of interests presents itself. 
    TIP: Women love it when a guy takes interest in their likes, dislikes, interests, family, childhood and so many other areas. Talking to her about herself is the best way to make her fall in love. 'Tell Me Honey...2000 Questions for Couples' is a best-selling book from Amazon that will help you draw out a woman with questions. This book has 2000 questions across 75 categories including love, romance, sex and relationships. Let her reveal herself to you, one question at a time and before you know it, she'll be in love with you! This 'must-have' book is also available as an instant download ebook.

    2. Romance her

    Make her feel good by keeping the romance alive in the relationship. You don’t have to spend a whole lot of money doing this. Sure, there isn’t a woman alive who doesn’t adore flowers and gifts, but you can also do things that don’t cost a lot but can still enhance your relationship. Write her little notes or send her a mushy card. Call her up just to tell her you’re thinking about her and can’t wait to see her again. Be attentive and make her feel cherished and truly special.

    3. Faithful

    Don’t ever give her occasion to doubt you. Let her know that you have eyes only for her and the rest of the world takes a backseat. Let her sense your commitment to her and your relationship. Being able to trust someone and truly rely on him is a very powerful feeling. So many people profess deep feelings and then cheat on their partners. Don’t just tell her but show her that she can count on you. Women need to feel secure and once that is established, it takes the relationship to a higher level.

    4. Time spent with her is precious

    Make it clear that you really treasure the time you spend with her, irrespective of what you’re doing together. And prove it! For instance, if she suddenly tells you she’d like to meet you because she’s finishing work early and you had something else lined up, cancel it for her. That doesn’t mean you cater to her to the exclusion of everything else, just that you sometimes sacrifice something you care about to be with her. If she begs you to come see a movie and you had plans with your buddies, do it for her and let her know subtly that you did. She will surely reward you! Women also love it if you do some girly stuff with them like shopping for lingerie, and aren’t afraid of sacrificing your masculinity in the process. It just makes you more of a man in their eyes!

    5. Compliment her

    You don’t have to go over the top always telling her how good she looks or how gorgeous her hair is or what a lovely outfit she’s wearing. A compliment has more effect when it is sincere, well timed and often, out of the blue. While a woman always loves hearing that she’s looking good, you can’t keep telling her that. It will lose its charm eventually. A compliment is valued when there is a surprise element to it. Telling her how witty you find her, how her intelligence turns you on, appreciating how thoughtful and generous she can be, or her gentle nature, all these are deeper compliments, which, when paid sincerely, make the recipient feel ten feet tall.

    6. Laughter

    Use humor as your biggest ally. If she enjoys your company and looks forward to seeing you again, you’re rapidly becoming an addiction, and that’s just what you’re aiming for. It’s not about making her laugh over your one-liners and finding you hilarious. It’s more about being on the same wavelength and enjoying the other’s sense of humor too. Or finding humor in similar situations or having a favorite serial or sitcom, which you talk about and cracks you up. Finding the same joke funny, or sharing a smile, draws you closer and makes you feel like kindred spirits. It’s a great feeling!

    7. Learn what turns her on

    And use it to advantage. Find out just the kind of touch that excites her, how she loves to be kissed. Don’t ever push her for sex or make her uncomfortable by coming on too strong. Let her see the effect she has on you, yet keep a strong rein on your passions if she decides she wants to call a stop to it. Let her set the pace, and ensure she understands that while your desires for her are strong, you will respect the limits she sets. Respect her and her body and she will appreciate you more for it. Women love it when they can see how much they turn you on and yet find you willing to take it slow for their sake. Also, when you make love to her, don’t always kiss her or caress her as a lead up to having sex. Do it just to make her feel special and because you want to convey that to her, and she will adore you for it.

    8. Give her space

    Don’t be possessive and make her account to you regarding her whereabouts. Let her know you trust her. Don’t expect her to spend all her free time with you. Let her have her own life too. Often when in a relationship, people make the mistake of spending every waking moment that they can manage together, and in the process, alienate themselves from friends and even lose their identity. Let her be her own person.

    9. Thoughtful

    You remember little things she told you, and remind her of it at opportune moments. It may be that she once mentioned she loves having chicken soup when she’s got a cold, and you land up with some when she’s got the sniffles. Or she’s told you how she adores a particular entrée at a popular restaurant and the next time you go there, you order it and surprise her. It makes her feel like you genuinely listen to her and take the trouble to act on it and make her happy.

    10. “I love you”

    And of course, while showing her should give her the message, there’s a lot to be said for saying it loud and clear. Tell her how important she is to you. You might want to think about when you’re first going to tell her those three words. If it's too early in the relationship, she might be skeptical that you could feel so deeply so soon. And thereafter, it's not just choosing the right moment, but making every small moment count. You don’t have to wait only till you’re kissing her, or in bed. Saying it when it's least expected makes it all the more precious. She might be telling you something and the feeling just overwhelms you – tell her at that instant. She won’t mind being interrupted mid-sentence!- futurescope.com

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  • 10 Ways to Know You’re Dating a Real Man

    07/May/2016 // 494 Viewers


    James Michael Sama
    Public Speaker and Writer
    I’ve made posts in the past about qualities of a gentleman, as well as the differences between a ‘bad boy’ and a jerk. But, how does this all translate into how somebody acts while in a relationship?

    A man may be able to put across a great image, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’

    Here are some ways to know if you’ve struck gold:

    1) A real man values more than just your looks.

    Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.

    2) A real man will never be intimidated by your motivation.

    A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

    3) A real man will have more interests than just you.

    I don’t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life — but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another red flag — relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

    4) A real man will give you answers.

    No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.

    5) A real man is direct.

    In addition to the last point — there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you... but with kindness.

    6) A real man will trust you.

    As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you’ve built.

    7) A real man is cool, calm, and collected.

    It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile.

    Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night.

    8) A real man will show you respect.

    Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. Be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.

    9) A real man will put effort into your relationship.

    Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward.

    10) A real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.

    A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.

    As Mark Twain said, “Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

    If you do have one of these men in your life, make sure he knows he is appreciated.- huffingtonpost

    James Michael Sama is a writer, actor, and public speaker focusing primarily on the topics of dating and relationships. Follow James’ blog at jamesmsama.wordpress.com for more posts like this one.

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  • Meet Miss Nigeria, Ezinne Akudo

    08/Nov/2015 // 251 Viewers

    Popular comedian, Bovi, had several glowing things to say while speaking at Ezinne Akudo’s dinner, held in honor of her ‘Call to the Bar’, at the Oriental Hotel in Lekki. He declared, “Ezinne is not just tall, she walks tall”, and that particular statement struck a chord with me. Why would a beauty queen with that much exposure go back to school to sit in a classroom?

    “Ezinne is not just tall, she walks tall”.
    Walking into a restaurant to meet with her on a Saturday morning, I found Ezinne seated reading a book, Richard Branson’s Screw It, Let’s Do It, and I began to understand the statement. Maybe it comes with years of practice, but the current Miss Nigeria seats tall, if that is at all possible. The TV is on and tuned to CNN, which no one appears to be watching. After our chat, she informs me that a plane has just crashed in Egypt carrying 224 people from Russia, but nothing else is known at the moment. I didn’t think she had even glanced at the TV. Her composure is calm, barely lets up and she speaks quietly and purposefully. As we talk, I wonder if she’s always this quiet, or if she jumps up and down with a champagne glass in her hand like the beauty queens always do on television, when they’re with family or friends.
    Two years after winning the pageant, Miss Nigeria, Ezinne Akudo is now a barrister-at-law, and still queen, although she is set to hand over to a successor today, Saturday, November 7. When asked if being a barrister felt any different she laughed, pushing through her quiet disposition.
    “Not really, it doesn’t. It just comes with a feeling of contentment and fulfilment. It’s me, but just happier.”

    The beauty queen described her journey from finishing university to winning the pageant and then going back to law school with her crown after a year, as ‘tough’. Her busy schedule prevented her from completing her studies at the same time with her mates, and it made her sad to watch them graduate while she was still taking lectures. “Going back to school, studying, writing…I wasn’t in the mood. I just wanted to play, but I realised it was something that I needed to do, so I got it done and out of the way.” Such a statement is typical of a young lady who has her life set out in front of her, complete with several paths she can decide to take.

    Recently, she opened the doors of her rape crisis centre, The Eight Foundation, in Lekki for victims of sexual abuse, a highly commendable achievement in a country where such facilities are few and far between. She remembers the night that she became Miss Nigeria, in 2013. As she stood there, frozen in the unreal moment between when her name was announced and the crown being placed on her head, she thought of her family and her supporters, but most of all, about her new role and the responsibilities that would come with it. She also thought of ways that her dream of providing counsel and support for sexual abuse victims could finally become a reality. Even before she won, Ezinne had plans to make that particular contribution to society. Her innate, lifelong desire to represent people with problems and the unfortunate experience of a friend at the hands of a rapist took her through her law studies.

    “I wanted to be a teacher, growing up. But the more I watched TV and movies, I realised that I loved representing people with problems. I love justice. I love to hear that someone got what they deserved, whether good or bad. I’d always wanted to do that and I meant to use the [Miss Nigeria] platform to push it. So even before I won, it was a personal project. As a contestant, you had to table your intended pet project in the event that you win, and that was mine. Even though I wouldn’t call it that, because it would mean that’s it, and that’s not the case, because I intend to continue.”

    It also means that she intends to practice law, still, even though she has not decided on what area she wants to specialise in. She is certain that it will be human interest/rights, women’s rights, or international law oriented, regardless, no going to court for her. A venture she most likely would not even find time for as she is presently involved in pursuing other humanitarian projects, including organising charity balls, market campaigns, school campaigns, creating documentaries and basically raising more awareness for the causes that she and her team fight for. She also intends to go into business to sell clothes, shoes, bags, fashion items, home accessories, and other things.

    Two years after living the life of a queen, Ezinne has a different answer for anyone who wants to know how it feels. “Now, I don’t see the ‘queen’ thing in front of me anymore, because I’m trying to develop myself, Ezinne, as a brand. I wake up, if I want to go out, I do, and if I don’t, I don’t.”

    On the reasons for her two-year reign, however, she had no answer, but there was quite a bit of laughter.

    “You’ll have to ask the organisers. When they’re ready they can come and get their crown. But seriously, the pageant was supposed to hold last year. I think they wanted to do the next one better. They want to be ready.”

    Concerning her thoughts on pageantry and the future of the event, her tone is a bit grave and sincere in expressing her everlasting love for the competition because of the opportunities that it gave her, even as she goes on to cite her uncertainties.

    “People are fast losing interest in pageantry and those that still participate just do it for the sake of [the] show. Unless people decide to address several inherent issues, it could die out. For me, the Miss Nigeria brand as at when I was crowned was free and fair, and I’m sure it would remain that way, and I’m always going to be grateful to the organisers.

    People come to me and go, “I want to contest. How did you win? Did you have to pay someone or do something?”, and I’m like, “I won!”. Yes, they’re always going to believe what they will, but you know that you won without knowing anybody, or having any money, and simply because you were lucky enough to fit the description of the queen that they wanted. That’s how it was for me, and if it remains that way, that means they’ve given other girls that genuinely deserve it an opportunity.

    That’s the way pageants should be, because there’s much more and I can say that because of the platform that the pageant created for me.”

    The issue of rigging in pageantry is a prevalent one, and the current Miss Nigeria portrays views, thoughts, and accomplishments of a woman who is aware of all of her capabilities, and uses them in her efforts to create a fair and just world for all and sundry. It also sets her apart from her peers in one of the best ways possible, as far as her platform is concerned.

    According to her, in order to take pageantry to the next level, it is not enough to put down requirements. “They can say, ‘Oh, you must be a certain height, be fluent in English language, with a good body, or have a certain educational background’ and a girl would meet all this requirements, but then she’s not grounded. In the sense that she literally, firmly, has her feet on the ground, is strong, and not easily distracted by the ‘life’ and all the attention. For me, that’s a basic requirement, and it’s something you can’t show on your credentials.



    It comes from upbringing, the way you were raised, either by your parents or by experience, and how you are as a person. The key word is that you must be grounded.”
    Source: Ein



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  • 9 things you should never tell your man

    09/Apr/2016 // 465 Viewers


    I have a verbal hangover from something I said (okay, yelled) during a fight with my husband last night. Something I swore I would never tell him. I know what you're thinking -- that married couples should have no secrets from each other. But I'm here to tell you that's bull. There are certain things you should never tell your husband -- no matter what. When it comes to preserving marital bliss, Grandma's old adage still holds true: What he doesn't know can't hurt him. So after years of watching my friends step right in a big pile of it, and though I'm practically blinded by this big-mouth hangover, I've made a list of things you should never, under any circumstance, tell your husband.

    1. Never admit that you hate his mother...even if he bad-mouths her first (the Silence Is Golden rule)

    It can be tempting to add your two cents as your husband is telling you yet another story about his controlling, manipulative, buttinsky mother. Tempting to say, "You think that's bad? The other day she told me all of our son's good qualities come from her! She's just a delusional, dried-up old cow who wishes she could be married to you and who resents the hell out of me just because you love me!" Take a deep breath and hold your tongue. Remember, he can say whatever he wants, because she's his mommy. If you agree too adamantly, bad things will happen to your relationship, not the least of which is that your husband will never let you forget your slipup and will preface everything he says about her with, "I know you hate her, but--" To be safe, apply this rule to all blood relations, particularly stepkids. Save your opinions about his family for your girlfriends or your shrink and you'll live a much happier life -- trust me.

    2. Never tell him that his best friend made a pass at you...(the No Harm, No Foul rule)

    I'll call my husband's best friend Ed. For years Ed and I have shared a playful, semiflirtatious banter, usually with my husband there to appreciate the show. I can't tell you how many times Ed has said, "I won't get married until I find a girl like you" and my husband has come back with, "You don't need a girl like her; just take her." A harmless routine, unless it goes sour. This was the case with my friend Wendy. Her husband's best friend, Sean, used to make "You're the perfect woman -- leave him and marry me" jokes. Then one day the gag turned serious. After too many glasses of wine, Sean put his tongue in Wendy's mouth as they kissed good night. Freaked out, Wendy told her husband what had happened. Needless to say, he and Sean had a big fight and never spoke again.

    "An old friendship lost over nonsense," laments Wendy, who wishes she'd kept it to herself. "I wish I'd given Sean the benefit of the doubt at least one time. If I had, my husband would still have someone to play ball with on Sundays." Obviously, if your husband's buddy is a repeat offender, you'll have to break this rule, but for now be flattered and be quiet.

    3. Never confess to past infidelities...(the Don't Tell, Don't Tell rule)

    Now, girls, I'd hope this goes without saying, but I'll mention it anyway. I don't care if you were 20 and drunk at the time; never admit that you cheated while in a committed relationship. On the subject of fidelity, you are above reproach. And not being a cheater yourself, you have zero tolerance for cheaters. (This is a little difficult for me because my husband and I began dating behind my then-serious boyfriend's back. Nevertheless, I make sure to occasionally remind him that if he even had a one-night stand, I would leave him and take the children to Tangier. The threat seems to be working.) But in all seriousness, you have to ask yourself how the relationship could possibly benefit from your true confessions, and I think you'll see the answer is not at all. Doubt can do serious damage.

    4. Don't tell him that one of your girlfriends is cheating on her husband...(the Keep Your Big Fat Mouth Shut rule)
    Just keeping your own past slipups under wraps is not enough. In general, you must act as though infidelity is equal to murder. You know it exists, you've read about it in the papers, but you certainly don't know anyone who has actually committed it. (This won't always be easy. Last year a friend of mine was having a full-blown affair with a guy whose kid went to our daughter's school. Keeping this from my husband -- who would have eaten it with a spoon -- was harder than childbirth.)

    5. Don't say he's not as hard as he used to be...(the It's Your Memory That's Getting Soft rule)

    So your husband doesn't have the tumescence of a 20-year-old frat boy. I bet you don't have the stamina of Venus Williams. I say this not to make you feel bad about your own aging body but to help you appreciate (or at least accept) his. I defer to my fourth-grade teacher: "Children, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!" And hey, belly or no belly, if he's still trying to impress you in bed, you've got it made.

    6. Don't make him feel impotent about work...(the I Believe in You No Matter What rule)

    This is the rule I broke last night. Usually when my husband comes home from work frustrated or angry about his day, I encourage him to tell me what's on his mind. I listen intently, try to offer advice, and always make it clear that I'm on his (read: our) side. But truth be told, I think he and his boss have a serious communication problem. Yeah, his boss may be a jerk, but he's not a mind reader.

    When my husband was passed over for a promotion recently, I endured his victim routine for several days. Then, last night, I let loose. "You expect people to know what you want when you don't even know what you want," I yelled. "That's what's holding you back at work! Forget the promotion -- you're lucky you haven't been fired!" The look on his face told me I'd hit way below the belt, and suddenly I could see the feeling of betrayal setting in. "I thought you believed in me," he said, looking so hurt I thought I might die. "I do," I pleaded over and over again. But the damage was done.

    This morning on the phone, my sister made me feel even worse. "Why are you being his career counselor when he needs you to be his wife?" she asked, a little too aptly, I thought. And when I repeated the exchange to my mother, who is long divorced from my father, she added, "That's a lesson I learned too late. Don't mix your marital problems with his business problems or you'll end up with a husband who feels like a loser at the office and at home!"

    7. Don't tell him you want a divorce unless you really do...(the Don't Give Him Any Big Ideas rule)

    My good friend Clare used to threaten her husband with divorce all the time, yet the day he took her up on it she was so shattered she had to be hospitalized. A year later her ex-husband told me, "Every time we had a fight, Clare would say maybe we should split up. Honestly, I couldn't live with that hanging over my head anymore. I believed she had one foot out the door." When I told Clare what her ex had said, she sighed, "Oh please, I would never have left him. He was the love of my life."

    I know we've all been tempted to scream "I want a divorce!" I definitely had to restrain myself during the no-sleep baby years. I remember one horrible fight Patrick and I had over whether to use the Ferber method to sleep-train our daughter. In retrospect, the argument was about supporting each other even when we disagree. But in that moment -- we were locked in our bathroom so our daughter wouldn't hear (though, trust me, people across the river could hear) -- I screamed, "Get out!" The words froze between us. My husband looked at me like I was crazy. "I'm not going anywhere!" he said, and I was so relieved I burst into tears and have never threatened to throw him out again.

    Once you introduce the idea of abandonment into your relationship, distrust can grow. You can't unring that bell, so don't ring it unless you're sure the whole damn town is on fire.

    8. Never tell him that it does bother you that you make more money than he does...(the Being Married to You Is a Full-Time Job rule)

    Since three out of four of my best friends make more money than their husbands do, I'm thinking this situation is a lot more common than anyone is admitting. For years my husband made more than I did, and he couldn't have been more generous. But as the financial balance shifted, I can't confess to the same generosity. What was always "our" money suddenly felt a little more like "my" money, and I had to bite my tongue when I felt like saying, "Do you really need a new car?" or worse, "-- a new suit?" When anybody asks me if it feels strange to be the primary wage earner, I'm quick to say no. But when I'm with my close friends, we confess that it does.

    "Just last week, on our tenth anniversary, Howard gave me a beautiful pair of pearl earrings," confided my friend Susie, a lawyer whose husband is a writer. "All I could think was, I wonder how much these cost me. It was terrible!" But as she went on to describe their evening together -- how Howard had planned every detail, written her a beautiful card, bought a bottle of her favorite wine -- we all realized how lucky she is to have a husband whose mind isn't so caught up in his business that he forgets about his wife. Susie said she learned long ago that if she busts Howard's balls about not making enough money, she has to get into bed at night with a man who doesn't make enough money -- and has busted balls!

    9. Don't confess to your crushes...(the Do Unto Others as You'd Have Them Do Unto You rule)

    I am the worst when it comes to schoolgirl crushes. Every few years I meet someone who I suspect could have been the love of my life. My most recent crush (I got over him real fast when I saw him pick his ear and then smell his finger!), a hippie artist, connected with the parallel me who could have been a painter (as opposed to the real-life mommy me, who can't even paint a toenail). When I talked with him, my mind felt alive with ideas I hadn't had since college. As someone who has been married for more than a decade, I welcome these pseudo-romantic diversions, though I never act on them. I just flirt a little, irritate my friends with boring stories, and entertain a new series of fantasies for a while. But I never tell my husband who the object of my secret affection is for one simple reason: I would never want to know who he has a crush on. It would make me insane. A harmless crush is something no flesh-and-blood person can compete with, so I keep mine to myself. Hey, does he really need to know why you seemed sooooo into the sex the other night? And do you really need to know why he was so excited? Exactly. - Red Book

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